Dear Abby: I have been in a relationship with a married man for the past five years. He lied to me about his position. He told me that the woman he had been with for 15 years broke up with him. I recently found out that he has been with his girlfriend for over 30 years and she is the mother of his children. I've tried to leave many times, but I always come back. I don't blame him, but I was very hurt by his deception. Since dating him, I've been hospitalized three times for depression. I'm not a home wrecker. he is not the devil. I just need help. It can't go on like this. My mental state is rapidly deteriorating now. please help me. — Heartbreaking in Maryland
Dear Broken Heart: You are stuck in a self-defeating cycle that never changes. In my book, this married man is the devil. He is a terrible person with no conscience. Looking at the effect this affair had on you (hospitalized 3 times for depression!?), if he had any conscience he would have ended it. If you don't have a qualified mental health professional you can talk to to break out of this destructive cycle for good, seek a referral now before you are admitted to the hospital again.
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