Family members can be tough, especially if you love them and you don’t like them.
This woman posted on Reddit and shared her story.
About three years ago, my sister-in-law, Daphne, became pregnant. S
He and his husband Jim were overjoyed, but tests at 20 weeks revealed their baby had a congenital condition and would be born with severe disabilities.
Daphne decided to proceed with the pregnancy despite Jim’s objections, and the two separated, but were back together by the time their son Liam was born.
He is currently 2 years old.
The woman’s sister developed behavioral problems since giving birth.
Over the past two years, Daphne’s (and Jim’s) mental health has deteriorated significantly.
Daphne used to be a positive and pleasant person, but now it is impossible to hold a conversation. She is malicious and jealous, and she flies off the handle at the slightest slight.
When I had my child, I didn’t talk to her for most of the pregnancy because she was too bitter and narcissistic.
We don’t live near Daphne, so we rarely see her in person, but we’ve heard from her parents that her condition is worsening.
In early November, Daphne became mentally unstable. She completely destroys Liam’s room and destroys Jim’s car in a fit of rage.
Thankfully, my sister is currently undergoing treatment.
This was eventually enough to put her on the waiting list for mental health services, and she began treatment.
During this time, she contacted me and we had a few conversations and I invited her and Jim to visit my husband and I at our beach house for March vacation.
Despite undergoing therapy, my sister still cannot help but be violent towards those around her.
Then I met Daphne and Jim at Christmas and it was horrible.
Daphne is able to maintain self-control for a few hours, but then she reverts to her old self. I know Liam can’t understand her because she was always swearing, but she doesn’t think it’s okay to curse at children.
When I expressed my concerns to her, she agreed that I should stop thinking about having a “perfect” child. Jim was constantly glued to her. He also constantly demands to hold or play with my child, to the point of irritation.
All in all, the whole family was just worried about the situation during the Christmas holidays.
After the trip, the woman and her husband were too worried to let their sister visit.
My husband finally told Daphne a week ago that he didn’t want her to come to the gym, and I agreed.
I called Daphne and told her that I had a problem with my husband’s work and had to cancel the trip.
Daphne was furious.
Apparently her therapist said how good this vacation would be for her (they haven’t had a vacation since having Liam) and I do this to help her. I had an obligation.
Eventually, she gave up, told me I was a terrible person for pulling the rug out from under her, and hung up.
Now, the woman’s entire family is upset that the trip was canceled.
I’m trying to rethink things because I feel sorry if I’m hindering her recovery and I don’t think even her parents should have canceled.
They saw how bad she was to me at Christmas, they saw how obsessed Jim was with my kids, and they still want me to put it aside. I think I should have, and they aren’t usually “peace-keeping” people, so maybe I’m really wrong.
Is it here?
Reddit users were quick to take my side.
Someone laid it out easily.
Another reader commented that the sisters need more help than women can provide.
And this person reminded me that my mental health is also important.
Trust your intuition and your limits.
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