Here is some positive advice for dealing with negative people.
Jeff Guenther passing by @therapy jeff I recently shared 8 Ways to Deal with an Incredibly Negative Partner online.
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He suggested first examining whether people can “feel understood and empathized” with the negative things their partner is saying.
Gunther noted that most people have probably tried this before, but urged them to try it again with this in mind.
“Maybe you’re doing the same thing over and over again because that’s all they want from you. Feel free to meet them where they are, and be a little negative, too, just don’t live there. Please,” he said.
The therapist also advised people to be “open” about how their partner’s behavior affects them.
If you keep having negative emotions, Gunther recommended that people create a “negative emotion-free zone.”
“It sounds silly, but it works. Set aside a specific time and space where complaints and grievances are completely ignored,” he said.
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Guenther also suggested that people establish “emotional boundaries” and clarify their ability to cope with negativity.
For example, someone might set a limit and say, “I want to support you, but I only have about 15 minutes right now to listen to you vent.”
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Next, he recommended that people “encourage problem-solving” and redirect their partner’s thought process from complaining to finding solutions. “What do you think would help solve that?”
The therapist also advised that people try to change the conversation by changing the subject.
He also encouraged people not to take their partner’s negative opinions personally.
If all these tactics fail, Gunter encouraged people to “consider compatibility” with Debbie Downer.
“If their negative feelings are chronic and cannot be changed, it’s okay to question things. If their constant negativity is dragging you down, you have permission to end the relationship.” ” he says at the end of the video.
