The root cause of anxiety is surprising.
The other day, I was finishing up a hypnotherapy session with a client and I asked him what kind of insight or “aha” moment he had. Moments born from our sessions.
His response was typical: “It's really all about my mother.”
Even though it's been 10 years since his mother died, and despite all the other processing, grieving, healing, and forgiveness that he had already done in his childhood, the root cause of his anxiety remains the relationship he had with his mother while he was growing up. I realized that I was in a relationship.
And this is very common.
Why is your mother the root cause of anxiety?
I see this in many of my clients as well. Adult anxiety symptoms, fears, lack of self-esteem and self-love, and impostor syndrome stem from wounds caused by childhood events.
Their family of origin's conversations, actions, actions, and most importantly, their relationship with their mother (or lack thereof) are central to the hurt and pain they are experiencing.
I don't mean to strike fear into the hearts of all you dear moms out there, but the truth is, we all have some junk in our trunks.
Wounds, negative self-confidence, and trauma are often passed down from generation to generation.
This collection of negative beliefs, captured in your cellular memory, wreaks havoc on your nervous system, leading to current panic attacks, developing impostor syndrome, and always having to wear the other shoe in your life or career. It causes anxiety that it will fall off.
I believe that most parents do the best they can in the moment, using data from their upbringing and personal growth and development along the way.
Does that mean they don't do things wrong? I don't like it. Does that mean they aren't unintentionally creating further trauma? Absolutely not.
Whether they did it completely unconsciously or intentionally is always up for debate. But you can't teach what you haven't learned.
In short, the past is the past.
But the amygdala doesn't recognize that little fact. (It's the part of the brain responsible for the fight, flight, or freeze fear response).
It's the way you still think about the past and respond emotionally to those memories and childhood cues. This keeps the amygdala on alert and causes fear even into adulthood.
The problem is that people often don't know what is causing them to feel anxious or depressed. They just know that they don't feel well, or feel bad, or are completely stressed and scared.
Their bodies are in pain, their nervous systems are on high alert, their digestion may be off, and their energy is low.
How do you create change if you don't know what needs to change?
The key to change is getting to the root of the problem. And the key to getting to the root of it is increasing self-awareness.
Be aware of what works for you and what doesn't. Become aware of how your body feels and how you feel below your normal standards of happiness and well-being on a daily basis.
This will give you the insight to recognize if you need additional support.
The challenge for many people is that they end up just putting a Band-Aid on the problem without getting to the root of the problem.
There are a huge number of Band-Aids available day and night through the magic of the internet, and they come in many different forms.
Numbing problems with various things (alcohol, food, drugs, gambling, shopping, television, etc.).
Avoid problems by working harder, spinning faster, or distracting yourself with other shiny objects.
We stick our heads in the sand and deny the problem by ignoring our emotions and the sensations in our bodies.
But all is not lost.
How to rewire your thoughts, unload emotional baggage from your past, release trauma you carry on a cellular level, and live in the world with greater self-love, self-acceptance, peace and joy. There is a way to readjust it.
When you're feeling anxious, here are three important steps you can take to release negative energy from your mind, body, and spirit.
In my 20 years of coaching clients, the root causes of anxiety are:
1. Proceed using “SBNRR”
This can help you slow down and consider the situation and your thoughts, feelings, and reactions more carefully during a panic attack or stressful moment.
Stop: Stop along the way and pause for a moment.
Breathe: Take deep breaths and let negative thoughts dispel like clouds passing through the sky.
Remember: Observe your emotions. Where in your body do you feel it?
Reevaluate: Make a mental note of your reactions and, if possible, specifically what triggered your anxiety. Was it your environment, colleagues, or situation?
Response: By taking the steps above, you are likely to be able to respond to the situation more effectively from a calmer, calmer perspective (rather than a fear-based panic response).
2. Write it down
Take time to write in your journal and clear your mind of negative thoughts. This will allow you to more objectively evaluate the fear disguised as “evidence” your brain is providing you with and stop ruminating on it.
Try this. Create two columns in your journal or notebook. The first column is labeled “Evidence that I am unfit.” The second column is labeled “Proof that I am capable.”
Whenever you start to think negatively, you can use this to find out what is true and what will empower you to take action.
It's also a great way to become aware of the recurring theme songs of your own stress and anxiety patterns. Armed with these insights, you can get the support you need.
3. Ask for support
Is there an itch you can't scratch due to anxiety that is bothering you? Is there anything you can't shake no matter what you try?
There are many forms of support available, including hypnotherapy, coaching, talk therapy, Reiki, Chinese medicine, and acupuncture, but I like to start by identifying the root cause of your anxiety.
Where and when did that belief become locked away in your cellular memory in the first place?
This is where the power of hypnotherapy comes into play.
If you can sink into the alpha brainwave state, you will enter a trance state, which is like a half-awake, half-sleepy state, and you will be able to access your subconscious mind.
All your beliefs, emotions, and stories about yourself from your entire life reside here.
Accessing these “files” allows you to identify the cause of your trauma (without having to relive it), allowing you to better understand the emotional residue left behind at that moment and rewriting and rewiring your beliefs. can. I have believed in myself all my life.
As you begin to realize that the “truths” you've held about yourself for a long time can be changed for the better, such as “I'm not good enough,” “I'm not loved,” “I'm not that way,” etc. You begin to realize that your beliefs can be changed for the better. You are worthy of receiving love, abundance, and happiness. ”This is a game changer.
Science of neuroplasticity It states that we can rewire our brains with new neural pathways to create new ways of thinking.
You can adopt a growth mindset that speaks to the truth of who you are.
You have enough. you are a lovely person You deserve all the love, joy, happiness, and more you can imagine. You always have been and always will be.
And as you begin to believe these actual truths about yourself and the negative programming you adopted as a child, perhaps your nervous system will begin to calm down and you will be able to begin breathing more deeply.
The more you believe in yourself and love yourself, the more confident you will be. It doesn't require years of talk therapy or coaching.
In many cases, you can create powerful, positive changes in just 30 to 90 days, rewriting a story of pain into a story of victory, joy, and success.
If you or someone you know is experiencing a mental health crisis, there are ways to get help. Call SAMHSA's National Helpline at 1-800-662-HELP (4357) or text “HELLO” to 741741 to connect to the Crisis Text Line.
Michelle MolitorCPCC, CHt, is a certified coach and hypnotherapist and co-author of the book. breakthrough healing. She helps high-achieving professionals feel less overwhelmed and regain confidence, calm, and clarity so they can build fulfilling lives and careers.
