A man diagnosed as a narcissist has revealed three manipulative techniques he believed were ‘normal behaviour’.
Researchers estimate that between 1 and 5% of the UK population have been diagnosed with or meet the criteria for narcissistic personality disorder (NPD).
But this doesn’t mean the rest of us are immune to manipulative or selfish acts like those of American content creator Jacob Skidmore. nameless narcissist On social media, he explained three manipulation techniques that we previously thought were normal behavior and why.
Three things Skidmore thought most people were doing (Getty Stock Images)
Intentionally using “I shouldn’t have said that” in conversation
We’ve all been in a situation where we tried to divulge some useful information, only to realize at the last moment that it was something we should never have shared.
Cue the awkward exchanges of “I really shouldn’t say this” and “Well, since you started saying that, I guess we should stop now.”
However, for Skidmore, this exchange was not an accidental gaffe, but a deliberate move to reveal his true feelings during the conversation.
Skidmore explained why he does things like this, saying, “Of course you’re going to be interested and keep asking me, so if I tell you about it, it’s not my fault.” ” he added.
trick someone into thinking you are lying
The following examples of manipulative behavior include tricking people into thinking you are lying when in fact you are telling the truth.
Using a similar example of spending time with an imaginary group of friends, he explained: “Let’s say you, Adam and Lilith are playing together…and you accidentally break Lilith’s TV. She doesn’t know which of you did it.” she asks. . ”
Next, the author explained how when someone is responsible, they “pretend” to be bad at lying in order to hold the other person responsible and absolve themselves.
He also explained why he thinks most people do these things (TikTok/thenamelessnarcissist)
“I’ve always thought that most people are intentionally lying because they’re not actually lying,” Skidmore added.
deliberately distance yourself from others
Skidmore said his actions were more about “self-protection” than trying to get something from others, saying he used it as a means of self-protection by distancing himself from others and pretending he didn’t care about them. I explained.
“I was convinced that if people knew I cared, they would use it against me. I felt like no one could truly care about me,” he says. said.
“I thought everyone recognized that such affection is a kind of weakness.”
This statement gave viewers a lot to think about, with some pointing out that intentional distancing could be a form of trauma-induced avoidance, while others pointed out that these behaviors said that it may be related to aspects of
