I know he’s busy, but he has lots of other things to do. He doesn’t want to sound like he’s criticizing him.
Anonymous: There are three pretty big roadblocks to getting treatment from someone struggling with mental health issues.
1. Admit that you need help. Good for him, he cleared the highest.
2. Start watching for real. This is a deceptively difficult process and can be overwhelming in the first few minutes. where do i start? How can you tell if someone is good? Is insurance covered? Just make a reservation? Is there anyone you can ask questions without surrendering your privacy? No one picks up the phone?
3. Find someone who ticks enough boxes. The main box these days is “acceptance of new patients”. Because demand is skyrocketing, supply is relatively fixed, and he won’t add a third shift in the graduate program, so he can mass-produce more clinicians.
Number 1 is the work of a completely unwell person. However, No. 2 and No. 3 leave room for helpers to intervene. You can find a therapist for him or offer to do the legwork of making a short list for him to choose from. Those who are not in danger can do this faster. My resources page has suggestions for finding a cure.
This is not “persistent”. It’s a lifeline. “You’re busy. This is not pressure, it’s a solid suggestion. Let me take this off your to-do list. I’ll make a call. Okay?”
Also, if he is able to take on other tasks temporarily to relieve stress, that is an act of good faith. I don’t want to stay in emergency mode — I’ll be putting my mental health at risk if he doesn’t resume his share — but use it in Burst to relieve pressure. can.
Hope it works out soon. That way, you can dodge the more difficult questions that come next.
·Please accept my sincere condolences. When my spouse first realized he needed to see a therapist, it took him a long time to actually find someone. I didn’t ask. I printed out a list of providers from the insurance website and handed it to him with a short note saying I could help call people if needed. I tried to remove some household items from his plate. We’ve been about 6 years since that point and he’s doing fine, but I’ve also learned to follow his maxim to put my oxygen mask on first.
· Can you (spouse) access his benefits overview? This includes information about employee assistance programs and mental health benefits (should be included). Let’s start there. Narrow down your tasks. Good luck.
