He is a loving partner, a good father, and lies to me about smoking pot. He says it's my fault for sneaking around. I try to ignore it but it's hard when he rolls out of bed to get high. What are you instructing me to do?
fed up: You have to admit that if you didn't object to your husband's pot use, he probably wouldn't use it secretly. If he switched to gummies (instead of smoking), that would alleviate the pungent odor, which is one of your objections.
There is a common belief that marijuana is not addictive, but you claim that your husband can't seem to get through a day without using it. A drug's effect on a person depends on many factors, including the amount of THC in the dose, the user's health and age, and whether they are taking prescription drugs, drinking alcohol, or using other drugs. It varies greatly based on. In addition to the pot.
of Centers for Disease Control and Prevention states that “approximately 3 in 10 marijuana users suffer from marijuana use disorder…which means they are unable to stop using marijuana even though it causes health and social problems in their lives.” It cites one study that says, Your husband may have marijuana use disorder, a cannabis dependence, or simply loves getting high all the time.
“Friends and Family” support groups that provide assistance to people affected by the cannabis use of others, due to the general increase in marijuana consumption and the sometimes difficult problems that marijuana use causes among loved ones. is rising. Mar-anon.com Runs on a 12-step model, Marijuana Anonymous (marijuana-anonymous.org). Zoom meetings are available daily, and these meetings and in-person meetings are posted on the organization's website.
I recommend that you stop trying to police your husband's marijuana use and try your best to distance yourself from his behavior so that you can separate your own choices from your anger at his choices.
Dear Amy: My question is certainly not life-threatening, but it drives me crazy. I was married for 10 years, divorced for 13 years, and happily remarried for 7 years. My first marriage was annulled after divorce. Recently, my wife found my old wedding ring while cleaning out her junk drawer. I thought it had disappeared years ago.
I told her I didn't need it and needed to get rid of it. She says she should take it to a pawn shop. I had her two wonderful sons from her first marriage, but other than that, this ring represents her decade of bitterness and turmoil. I'm not Catholic, but the symbolism is still important to me, so I can't imagine putting the ring back into circulation.
He wanted to hire a hobbit to carry the Ring across Mordor and throw it into the lake of fire. Her wife can't afford The Hobbit, so she says she needs to make other plans. What is the best way to deal with this?
Superstitious: I love the idea of a hired hobbit taking all the material things that bring him feelings of shame and sadness and bringing them to the lake of fire. (Or to Frodo's pawn shop in his mall on the Shire Strip.) (And I'm probably not good enough to apply for the Hobbit job, but I think I fit more into the Elfen category.)
You and your wife may come up with a highly symbolic act of changing this ring for something else. It's probably to melt the ring and make a charm. However, this is expensive and time consuming. I like the idea of throwing the ring into the stream. Please give me a powerful blow. I did that once, and it certainly worked.
Dear Amy: “in a bad place”, her husband says, feeling angry and isolated. She should take him for her medical evaluation. Changes in his personality indicate that dementia may be setting in.
2 cents: It wasn't clear if my husband's personality had changed, but I agree that a medical evaluation is a good idea.
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