I have post-transplant complications such as fatigue, graft-versus-host disease, organ damage, emotional trauma, dietary restrictions, and a compromised immune system. You try to look good, but it’s hard to keep up and sooner or later something happens that highlights your incompetence.
I’m tired of blaming the “Big C”, but it comes up often. For example, being extremely tired and having to go home after a few hours, or tweeting something to explain myself because people resent me for being careful and still wearing a mask. To do.
I can’t think of a good way to express myself (such as telling a joke that fails). I often turn down social engagements for all these reasons, and simply because I don’t want to be weird. Do you have any suggestions for being me?
New me: You are a chronically unhealthy person trying to integrate with people who have no idea and no way of knowing how hard they are trying to experience the world as they do. . I feel really tired.
I will presume to write you a prescription. It’s about leaning back and resisting the constant urge to “pass by.”
I now speak on behalf of my fellow oddballs. Life becomes easier for you and others when you embrace the concept of self-care. For you, self-care is about being kind to yourself, being your full and authentic self, and making sure your needs are met.
If you think healthy people resent the need to be extra vigilant, for example to wear a mask, ask yourself (and others, if faced with it) if they’re going to live their lives. Tell them that if you want to experience the effects of cancer that change your life, you will. Happy to replace them.
It also requires experiencing connections with people who don’t expect you to describe yourself. Join a cancer survivor support group.
In researching your question, I found a helpful online group: Cancersurvivors. Reddit.com. After reading the first few posts, I realized that there are other people out there who understand what you are going through and fully support your New You.
Dear Amy: I have taught in secondary education institutions for over 30 years.I’ve had probably thousands of course re-evaluations, but now I can ‘enjoy’ ratemyprofessors.com.
It should come as no surprise that ‘complainers’ are the most likely to participate in these various rating services.
I have something to thank you for. Your choice to publish the complaint letters you receive and your often humorous responses have helped me stop focusing on the complainant and appreciate the humor. It was – needless to say, many complainers could also be recognized.
Professor: thank you! I learned long ago that harsh or negative reactions can take up more mental space than many positive reactions.
There are two reasons why I do some of these negative answers. One is because they may provide important or useful fixes, or because they represent a large group of respondents.
I may be pale, but in the words of my late mother, she had a much more physically demanding, low-paying, so-called menial job before attending college and becoming a professor in her mid-fifties. I was. she’s doing a real job. ”
I will never forget how lucky I am.
Dear Amy: I will answer questions from Mr.lock in“After setting up the camera, I caught my roommate sneaking into the locked room.
i am the landlord In my jurisdiction (and probably many others) it’s illegal to put a keyed lock on your bedroom door. It is a fire hazard and may interfere with firefighters’ activities.
So maybe the person who wrote the letter should keep their valuables with a trusted friend for safekeeping and plan to move out as soon as possible, rather than bolstering the door lock. The whole thing sounds eerie.
landlord: Great point! I agree with you about the creep factor.
In researching this topic, I found a ton of CCTV footage of roommates sneaking into other people’s rooms, sometimes taking things out, and sometimes just spying.
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