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Ask Amy Helping a Spouse in Recovery

by Universalwellnesssystems

Dear Amy:

My wife and I have been social drinkers since the day we met over 40 years ago. Alcohol is always present at gatherings such as weddings, holidays, concerts and sporting events. I can have a few drinks and rest, but when it comes to my wife, not so much. She keeps ordering her drinks until 2am. And while it was sometimes silly and funny when we were younger, the end result was often embarrassing as we got older.

I became very concerned about my wife’s drinking and health. One night, when she pushed her limits, I filmed her, sent the video to her, and told her I didn’t want to be a part of that lifestyle anymore. I threw out all the alcohol in the house and neither of us have been drinking since. I rarely miss it and she had no problem quitting, but mentally it was very difficult for her. Alcohol was her social lubricant. Her alcohol helped her get over her social anxiety and self-esteem issues.

Now either she doesn’t attend events at all, or she is in such a bad mood that sometimes we leave early. How can I make her understand that I can still enjoy the same event without using her alcohol as a crutch?

— Sober Husband

Dear Siraf:

Your wife has managed to quit alcohol, but has not successfully addressed the underlying reasons for her use of alcohol in the first place. Recovery and Her Twelve Steps In her circle, her challenge might be called “Dry Drunk Syndrome.” She has lost her crutches and she is now limping and trying to live without crutches.

Even if your wife is prompted to quit drinking quickly (and supported by your calm support afterwards) by video-shaming the effects of alcohol abuse on her, an addiction specialist can help. By attending meetings at home, with a therapist, and/or with others in recovery. Spending regular time talking to others who are similarly struggling “white” toward recovery may help you understand her anxious reactions and make her feel less alone.

We hope that you will be patient and supportive as she continues her life-changing recovery process.


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